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How to Make Good Decisions for Your Life

How to Make Good Decisions for Your Life

Eight years ago a very wise teacher called Barefoot Doctor shared with Eoin Scolard and I one of his favourite tools for creating a full, beautiful, exciting life. He said that when he had to make a decision about doing something he simply asked himself the question

“If I knew that this was the last year of my life, would I do it?”

Those words really resonated with both of us even though we had only met for the first time a couple of days previously.

Two months later we found ourselves driving around British Columbia for 3 weeks in a 24 ft motor-home with my 14 year old daughter and Eoin’s 16 year old daughter! All because of this philosophy for life. And now, 8 years later, we have just sold our home in Northern Ireland and will be leaving here in August to start our new life in France. Again, largely because of this philosophy. 

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How to Find Peace through Acceptance

How to Find Peace through Acceptance

It has been a challenging few days for me.

Eoin and I are on a much needed 2 ½ week holiday in Provence where we are house-sitting in a 600 year old farm which now comprises a stunning home and a selection of 5 star gites spread over 6000 square feet.  The sun is shining and it is warm enough to have lunch outside followed by a siesta by the pool most days.  We are caring for 2 dogs, 3 outdoor cats and 15 hens in return for us being able to live in this amazing place for free.  We even have use of a car!  We are close to one of the best market towns in the area where we can stroll in the sunshine and purchase a whole array of delicious local produce.  Apart from caring for the animals, we have no commitments to anyone other than ourselves.  Heaven!  Our plan had been to relax deeply, explore this beautiful part of the world and enjoy long hikes in the winter sunshine.

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Sisterhood will Save the World

Sisterhood will Save the World

(This blog post was written in August 2016 but never published and completely forgotten about.  I found it on my laptop the day after attending the Sister Rally in Belfast to support the Women's March on Washington!  It seems like an appropriate time to share it. JG)

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How to Handle Your Gremlins

How to Handle Your Gremlins

Over the last few months I’ve been peeling back another layer of my being, and through the peeling I became aware that I was back in my old habit of trying to fit in, and people pleasing.  Having started to work full time in my own beautiful wellness company earlier this year I was surprised that things didn’t flow with grace, joy and ease. I noticed that something was out of alignment.  Working with my own Coaches (because even Coaches need Coaches!) I slowly realised

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How to Make Change Easy

How to Make Change Easy

One of the things I love about the 12 Step Programme is their use of simple yet strong quotes. The two I love the most are ‘TO THINE OWN SELF BE TRUE’ and ‘EASY DOES IT.

When I am coaching my clients, whether its Personal or Professional Coaching, I often think of and lean into these two quotes.

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How to Make 2017 YOUR Year

How to Make 2017 YOUR Year

There are two BIG QUESTIONS you need to answer for 2017. That's all. But you need to spend time at them, and dig deeply.

Q.1 - By the end of 2017, what is the one feeling you want to experience really deeply?

At the beginning of 2015, I took over an hour to get to my ONE FEELING, described by ONE WORD. It’s important to take some time out for this exercise, and to really

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How to Experience Love in 2017

How to Experience Love in 2017

By our Life & Love Coach Denise Mcnally

As a Life and Love Coach I am passionate about the importance of reflecting on our relationship with self and others.

Put aside your personal resolutions for a moment to focus on your relationships. The beginning of a New Year is always a great time for renewal and breathing new life into old worn out habitual ways of thinking and being. It's a time to take control, reflect, refresh and assess where we are

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How to be Resolutely You

How to be Resolutely You

So, is your pen at the ready? Have you already uttered a sentence beginning with a definitive ‘Right, in 2017 I’m going to….’?

A new year is such a logical time to take stock and make plans, with the crisp new diary inserts (if you’re nostalgic and still use a Filofax like me) as well as the flood of media encouraging us to get more fit, more trim, more fashionable, more domesticated, more organised, just MORE!

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How to Create a Home You Love

How to Create a Home You Love

If I were to ask you what does “home" mean, what would you say? According to the Oxford English Dictionary, “home" is "the place one lives permanently, especially as a member of a family or household."      

Now this has actually made me giggle! Why?

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How to Break your Sugar Addiction

How to Break your Sugar Addiction

Sugar equalled happiness for me for most of my life.  Whether it was my dad bringing home a 'quarter' of wine gums for me on a Friday evening or my mum making a birthday cake for me, my daughter and I spending whole afternoons baking in the kitchen when she was little or the groans of appreciation as people tasted my famous pavlova.  All my life I have associated sugar with love or celebrations. 

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How to Stop Resisting Reality

How to Stop Resisting Reality

Our  resistance to the circumstances for our lives can create more pain and dis-ease than is actually necessary.  I made this video to demonstrate how much energy we waste by the insanity of resisting reality. Strong words, yes - but I want to shock you!! I want you to see that IT ACTUALLY IS A FORM OF INSANITY - TO RESIST REALITY. Guess who wins? NOT YOU. EVER. NEVER.

All your thinking about reality doesn't change the fact that it's there, staring you in the face. It's the traffic jam, or the flat tyre, or your husband's behaviour. It simply is,

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How to Quit the Booze Easily

How to Quit the Booze Easily

I wonder if on this bright, sunny Monday morning, you are feeling the negative impact of a few too many drinks over the weekend to celebrate the lovely weather?

That cycle of one too many drinks to either relax or have fun on Friday night - followed by a few more on Saturday night - followed by a foggy head, dehydration and a few demons on Sunday

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How to Set Yourself up for the Day

How to Set Yourself up for the Day

BEEP-BEEP-BEEP. BEEP-BEEP-BEEP. WAKE UP!  Your alarm is beeping. It’s morning – again! The alarm beeps again, ten minutes later, and you realize that you’d hit the snooze button. Damn! So you crawl out of bed, shout for the kids to wake up, and jump into the shower. While you’re in the shower you’re thinking of everything you need to get done today. By the time you’re washed, you’re already stressed.

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How to Attract Your Perfect Partner

How to Attract Your Perfect Partner

Do you find yourself in the same type of relationships with the same type of people over and over again?  I did!

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How to Fall in Love with Yourself

How to Fall in Love with Yourself

There is nothing wrong with you.

That is the profound truth that all spiritual teachers have been bringing to us for centuries. Yet most of us resist that possibility because we’re so programmed to think otherwise. We think we lack something, and we spend most of our lives looking  for it.

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How to Spring-Clean your Life

How to Spring-Clean your Life

The last few months have seen some enormous changes in my life including a new, permanent home at last, working outside of my home for the first time in 8 years and my ‘baby’ turning 18. It has been an amazing winter and one which has brought me yet more peace, balance, fulfilment and joy.

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How to Transform a Negative Experience

How to Transform a Negative Experience

by Jenny Grainger (August 2014)

Last week I found myself spending 3 hours in the Breast Clinic at our local hospital because I had recently discovered a couple of small lumps on my breasts. What could have been a very challenging and stressful experience for me was transformed into something very special because of three key things.....

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How to Maintain Your Energy

How to Maintain Your Energy

Now that the kids are back to school, our family routine has changed again and already the holidays seem as if they never happened. Is it just me or are the mornings more rushed and stressful what with trying to get the kids up and dressed, packed lunches to make and school traffic to be negotiated? And then at the end of the day,

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How to Learn from Dogs!

How to Learn from Dogs!

When we decided to re-home a large and unruly 6 month old labrador retriever last January, we had no idea what a great spiritual guru we had invited into our home. Samson the Wonderdog (as he is affectionately known) gives us regular reminders of simple spiritual and physical practises which we could all learn a lot from. I wanted to share some of his most profound teachings to date....

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How to Handle Bad News

How to Handle Bad News

Like most of you I woke this morning to the shocking news that the American people had decided that Donald Trump was to be their next President.  I felt physically sick when I  heard the news intitially and, in the past, I would have gone into a complete tailspin of negative thinking

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How to Change the World

How to Change the World

As Eoin and I sat watching the unfolding of the horrific events in Paris last Friday night, like many of you reading this I am sure, my heart was aching with sadness. I was sad for all those who had been traumatised on a ‘normal’ Friday night out in the city, for all those whose loved ones would not be coming home at the end of the night, for the impact on one of my favourite cities in the world, for the

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How to Navigate Dark Times

How to Navigate Dark Times

When I look back to my life 6 years ago before I took the plunge into the unknown world of self-employment I can see that, at some level, I had a very clear vision of how I wanted my life to be. This meant that, however confused, insecure or lost I may have felt at different stages over the 6 year period, I always tried to keep my sights on the light at the end of the tunnel.

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How to Be Happy Now

How to Be Happy Now

This moment is simply the space available to you - right now. Happiness is available, peace is available, right now, always. BUT - its all up to you.

You will experience this moment based on your thoughts about it, but you need to understand that each moment is a microcosm of your life, and that each moment builds on and includes all the previous moments. When we are overly identified with our mind we never taste the depth of the moment - the Now. Why?

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How to Keep the Balance

How to Keep the Balance

One of the main reasons that I gave up my well paid job as an Assistant Producer in TV back in 2005 was because I felt that my life was completely off-balance. I had spent nearly 9 years of my beautiful daughter’s life trying to juggle my career and my desire to be the best mum that I could be to her but it simply wasn’t working.

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How to Listen to Your Life

How to Listen to Your Life

Saturday 30 October 2004 was the day when I finally started listening to what my life had been trying to tell me for several years. It was the fateful day when I received the phone-call that every parent dreads.

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How to Stay Optimistic

How to Stay Optimistic

On 31 October 1993 my first daughter died. Due to extreme developmental abnormalities her heart stopped beating during a 19 hour labour which was induced at 6 ½ months into my pregnancy. That morning I had felt my baby kicking me. That night her heart stopped beating

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How to Create a Life You Love

How to Create a Life You Love

Over the last 9 years of living and teaching the Law of Attraction, I have come across many different tools and techniques which claim to help us to become deliberate creators of our own lives. However, for me, the most simple and effective one I have found is

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How to Trust More and Fear Less

How to Trust More and Fear Less

By Jenny Grainger (October 2012)

On a recent car journey to Dublin, the motorway was closed for maintenance halfway ana and Eoin and I were forced to follow a long, convoluted diversion through countryside and villages which were unfamiliar to us. To begin with we were both a little stressed by this because the diversion was slowing us down and we were probably going to be late arriving in Dublin. But

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How to Slow Your Life Down

How to Slow Your Life Down

”SLOW DOWN AND ENJOY CHRISTMAS” say the warning signs over the main Dublin roads throughout December. Obviously the authorities are using this as a road safety warning but I am always struck by this message from a different perspective.....

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How to Break Through instead of Breaking Down

How to Break Through instead of Breaking Down

I remember being asked by my first Life Coach back in 2004 “why don’t you allow yourself to let go and cry, Jenny?” She was clearly aware of the anguish and pain which I was repressing and bottling up at the time. I replied that I didn’t want to start crying because I thought that once I started, I would never stop.

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How to Keep Your Mind Open

How to Keep Your Mind Open

Excerpt From "The Possibility Exists....." by Eoin Scolard. 

THE POSSIBILITY EXISTS. These three words will liberate you from reactivity, open you into possibility and fire up new creativity. All you have to do is to get your mind used to those three words.

THE POSSIBILITY EXISTS is a very powerful statement because it's always true.

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How to Create a Life You Love

How to Create a Life You Love

There appear to be two contradictory beliefs in the world about Desire. 

1. New Age Beliefs – e.g. Law of Attraction.

You must really WANT it. Do this for long enough and YOU WILL GET IT.

2. Older Beliefs - inspired by religious views.

To be truly spiritual you must renounce desire (Christian) or transcend desire. (eastern approach). The underlying message is “Don’t Desire!”

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How to Feel Happier Now

How to Feel Happier Now

Today I woke up feeling a bit grumpy and hormonal. I don't like feeling like that *!#* - so I decided to change how I felt - and this inspired me to share with you the simplest and most effective way to raise your vibe and feel happier now. 

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